My first TFT (Thoughts For Thursday for those who were wondering).
Grace is getting to the point where we are having to tell her no. Typically it is because she is doing things that are annoying, or gross, but not usually dangerous. We find ourselves saying no a lot and she has started saying no to us in return. An example would be opening the cupboard the trash is in and pulling trash out and carrying it around the house or knocking the phone off the hook and putting it somewhere we can't find when it rings. The problem with saying no is 1.)she is only 14 mos old and does she really get "no" and 2.) we don't want her to hear it so often that when she really is doing something we really need her to stop (i.e. dangerous) she won't listen because we are saying it for every little thing.
So I guess the point of this post is to figure out how to discipline a 1 year old. Do we say no? And what age is it appropriate to say no? What should the consequences be for not listening? When did you start disciplining your children and how? Are there any books, shows, schools of thought you would recommend?
At that age with Porter we always tried to say "No thanks" to him and redirect him to something else. If he continued to get into whatever he wasn't supposed to, we'd increase how firm/tone of voice and change to "NO!" and sometimes a hand swatting.
ReplyDeleteWe didn't start time outs with Porter until he was about 18 months old and he did great with them. I don't think he fully understood at first, but it was a way to redirect his attention, remove him from whatever was getting him in trouble (whether it was him throwing a fit or getting into something).
I'm reading 'Parenting with Love & Logic' (because I'm really worried about the disciplining part of being a parent) and it recommends redirecting a toddlers's attention and only using 'no' when they are in danger. It also recommends giving alternative options so they get to make the decision, though I'm not sure how well that works at 14 months.
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